There Are No Rules Of Attraction When It Comes To Meeting Your Match

Some time ago, I found myself single again (shock, horror!) and decided to get back into the world of dating. One thing that struck me very early on in my forays was that everyone had an opinion about “what worked” in terms of dating. But too often those opinions were based on anecdotes, assumptions about human behaviour I knew to be wrong, or – worse – pure misogyny.As a psychologist who has studied attraction, I felt certain that science could offer a better understanding of romantic attractio…


The Story Of How I Fell In Love With You And Why I Still (Slightly) Am

This is the story of how I fell in love with you. It begins, unlike most stories, not when you first said hello to me and decided that you were in love with me, but two years after we had become best friends and can only be told in a matter that is in no form linear. I hadn’t meant to fall in love with you. You were the last person on earth that I could ever see myself wanting to kiss, especially given how much I would joke around with you about how awkward it would be if you and I ever dated. O…